Sunday, October 29, 2006
Tuesday, October 24, 2006
The Mystery of missing Ear-ring
Yes, I know, it’s been past 4 to 5 months now and it still says about the mystery of the missing ear-ring. Finally here is the unrevealed mystery.
It’s all started in May. We have a maid, who used to wash dishes, and broom the flat. As you always know, they are making easy money by not doing there work they supposed to. The dishes are washed by her, and then we have to do that also, because the powder or liquid or the surface of dishes not cleaned. When she broom, also leave many spots and sometimes skip the room. Even some maids are theft. They make them self comfortable and try to finish work as quietly, as they have another work waiting at another location. They act as they are the boss.
Anyway, on their behaviour and attitude, a new article can be written. So, what happened was that, in the evening, my mom came to us telling the screw of the gold ear-ring had been fallen some where. We search the mom's room, and one or two another rooms, where it can be found. However, we failed to find any where in the house. We waited for the next morning for the maid to clean. This is the best and possible way to be found things.
Negative! Nothing was found. Day’s passes, where could it be? It should be found in the cleaning. It can be stolen or not been spotted. We leave that case open.
After couples of week, one evening of Saturday, we notice a small lizard stuck in the bathroom. We tried to get rid of him by showing him the way out from window, but it stuck-ed in the corner, afraid, hiding, and confused.
The lizard was still living in the bathroom. I was watching David Letterman, Tom Hanks was the guest for his movie Da Vinci Code. It was about 00:30 am, still try to get him out as we notice, he was staying.
At last, dad picks the sink plumper and tried to suck the little creature. The lizard hang on to it and then dad balances the pump out in the gallery.
"Let the pump go", was the thought of us, when the lizard and the pump were in the gallery. In six or seven hours we have made the bonding with him. I was thinking of keeping him by then. It was cute too. Finally the little lizard falls down. He was saved and gone for good.
But you would be wondering what about the missing screw of gold ear-ring. What the link between these two stories?
It has the link, what we can say is that it was the sign from the Divine source. That little guy was just the way of giving us the clue, because it was odd, staying in the flats for too long and neither dying nor leaving. The lizard had gone out only through the support of sink pump and after spending it living for six to seven hours.
Here what happened…
The ear-rings were on my mom's ear at the time of screw disappeared. She was cleaning the bathroom at that time. When she finished her work and after a while when doing other works, maybe in evening she noticed when look at her in the mirror. She was in her room, so the first thing click in her mind was her own room to check, then the others.
However, it was missing for more than 2 weeks. Where can it be?
But the clue was given through the lizard, which showed us where it was. It was pined in the pump all along these weeks. When the lizard fallen, dad checked the bottom of the pump, to make sure that lizard had left the flat. He noticed the screw was pinned in the pump.
Sometimes, in our lives too, we got many signs and opportunities, which can change the whole life of the person.
We should be attentive to all the happenings in our life.
Monday, October 09, 2006
How to Collect From Clients: Walk the Walk, Talk the Talk
Former President and COO, Software Business Technologies
Money Talks, and So Must You
- Establish Financial Boundaries. Discuss money during your first meeting with a client. Explain in a clear and concise manner exactly what you will do for the client, while specifically stating your compensation terms . Discuss in detail, for example, the cost of a visit to the client's site or two rounds of revisions on a project. Your clear communication during this meeting is essential, because it establishes important financial boundaries with the client.
- Formalize an Agreement. The boundaries discussed at the initial meeting should then be documented in writing. In an obligating agreement, you should list the specific services to be performed or work to be delivered, and the estimated cost of the services or work. This agreement should explicitly state that your client owes you money for work performed or services rendered. The agreement should also specify the terms of payment, including the payment you expect in advance of services.
- Request Money in Advance. If it is the accepted practice within the industry, business owners should request a portion of their money in advance. In its professional-services business, SBT requires all clients, large and small, to pay a retainer that lasts across the life the job. Using the terminology of the industry is important, such as "deposit on hardgoods" or "retainer on services." This allows the client to understand you are asking for something others will ask for as well.
In one case, we at SBT asked an international freight company with worldwide offices for a down payment of one third. The freight company balked, but we insisted. Even if we came down to one percent from our original request, we would be able to say to other clients that we required this internationally known corporation to pay a portion in advance. Remember, you can acquiesce if the client protests--the freight company understood our position. But if you allow no up-front payment, you will have a much harder time later with other clients, and your cash flow is impacted significantly.- Review Verbally. Take the time to review the agreement with your client before signing. This will enable you to reinforce the financial obligation that the agreement specifies. You can also use this verbal review time to inform your client about the value of your work. The talk might go something like this: "By adding these modifications to your system, you'll be able to process incoming orders in approximately half the time it's now taking." Simply stated, you are telling the client exactly what you are providing for a specific dollar amount, and therefore defining the client's expectations. There should be no question at the end of your meeting about what is being delivered, when to expect it, and how much it will cost.
- Designate an Agent. It is imperative that the task of reminding clients to pay their bills, as well as more advanced collection activities, be undertaken by someone elsein your office, such as an office manager or administrative assistant. You might also consider hiring a third party to handle the job.
- Distance Yourself. When you have designated an individual to serve as your accounts-receivables manager, you can distance yourself and your business role from the collection function. Should a client call you to complain about a collection call, you can respond with a comment such as, "I'm glad you contacted me. I'll talk to my accounting department about this. I'm sure we can get it straightened out." This necessary separation allows you to maintain a distinctly different image in the mind of the client.
- Set Billing Standards. Do not expect your client to pay from an incorrect invoice, or to pay the invoice on time if it is sent out late. Hold yourself to an invoicing standard calling for no errors and consistently punctual delivery, allowing ample time for your clients to meet your agreed-upon payment terms.
- Set Accounting Standards. What is the best way to ensure accurate and timely invoicing? Consider the method you now use for billing your clients. The off-the-shelf accounting package you probably used to start your business was fine, but as your business expands, so does your need for an automated accounting system. In anticipating growth and change in your business, look for an accounting system that provides features such as automatic updating of customer and inventory balances and flexibility for modifications as your business evolves.
- Use Late-Payment Fees. While it is almost impossible to collect late-payment fees in a commercial business relationship, you might use them as a tool that brings a collection problem to light. If you do, be consistent about when you add them. When negotiating for payment, you can then say, "If you overnight your payment to us, we will remove all or part of the finance charges" that will occur after 60 days. Do not book these fees as revenue, and don't expect them to be paid. Forcing this issue sends a client to your competitor.
- Bring Payment Issues to a Head. For really stubborn payers, it may be necessary to confront the problem directly. The best time to do this is at the most critical stage of the client's project. In the past, we have often asked clients to put themselves in our shoes. We have a payroll, other clients are paying as agreed, and we must keep the business running. We also make it clear that a delay in paying us is forcing us to stop work on the project so that our business can survive. We explain that if all clients were like this, we would be out of business. This sends a very clear message.
- Consider Arbitration. When it comes to legal action, only the lawyers make out in most cases. Therefore, we prefer to call for arbitration when an agreement or contract is disputed. This is less costly for both parties, and allows issues to be resolved faster. Always warn the client that he is forcing you "to bring in a third organization or person" to assist in resolving the payment issue.
- Stay Calm, Be Fair. Business people respect other business people who are fair, so treat clients as you would expect to be treated. Stay calm at all times, repeat options verbally and in writing, and consider compromise. I have told many clients, "Pay us now, or pay us later. We will write a credit for this issue, but it will cause us to consider our pricing much more carefully." Most clients who want to do business with you would rather keep you happy--and paid.
Saturday, October 07, 2006
Eye Direction and Lying
Eye Movement and Direction and How it Can Reveal the Truth or a Lie
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This is a continuation of our previous article " Detecting Lies". Many comments by our visitors have asked about how eye direction can indicate the presence of a lie.
So can the direction a person's eyes reveal whether or not they are making a truthful statement? Short answer: sort of. But, it isn't as simple as some recent television shows or movies make it seem. In these shows a detective will deduce a person is being untruthful simply because they looked to the left or right while making a statement.
In reality, it would be foolish to make such a snap judgment without further investigation... but the technique does have some merit. So, here it is... read, ponder and test it on your friends and family to see how reliable it is for yourself.
Visual Accessing Cues
The first time "Visual Accessing Cues" were discussed (at least to my knowledge), was by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in their book "Frogs into Princes: Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) " From their experiments this is what they found:
When asked a question a "normally organized" right-handed person looks (from your viewpoint, looking at them):
Up and to the Left
Indicates: Visually Constructed Images (Vc)
If you asked someone to "Imagine a purple buffalo", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Visually Constructed" a purple buffalo in their mind.
Up and to the Right
Indicates: Visually Remembered Images (Vr)
If you asked someone to "What color was the first house you lived in?", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Visually Remembered" the color of their childhood home.
To the Left
Indicates: Auditory Constructed (Ac)
If you asked someone to "Try and create the highest the sound of the pitch possible in your head", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Auditorily Constructed" this this sound that they have never heard of.
To the Right
Indicates: Auditory Remembered (Ar)
If you asked someone to "Remember what their mother's voice sounds like ", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Auditorily Remembered " this sound.
Down and to the Left
Indicates: Feeling / Kinesthetic (F)
If you asked someone to "Can you remember the smell of a campfire? ", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they used recalled a smell, feeling, or taste.
Down and To the Right
Indicates: Internal Dialog (Ai)
This is the direction of someone eyes as they "talk to themselves".
The Gist of it...
How this information is used to detect lies:
Example: Let's say your child ask's you for a cookie, and you ask them "well, what did your mother say?" As they reply "Mom said... yes." they look to the left. This would indicate a made up answer as their eyes are showing a "constructed image or sound. Looking to the right would indicated a "remembered" voice or image, and thus would be telling the truth.
Related Books: Frogs into Princes Never be Lied to Again |
Final Notes:
*** Looking straight ahead or with eyes that are defocused/unmoving is also considered a sign of visual accessing.
*** A typical left-handed person would have the opposite meanings for their eye-directions.
*** As with other signs of lying, you should first establish and understand a persons base-behavior before concluding they are lying by the direction of their eyes.
*** Many critics believe the above is a bunch of bull***t. In my own experiments I have found these techniques to be more true than not. But, why not find out for yourself? Make up a list of questions that like the sample ones, and give them to your friends/family anyone who would be your guinea pig, observe their eye movements and record the results.
*** This guide is hardly in-depth, I recommend getting the book "Frogs into Princes: Neuro Linguistic Programming" by Richard Bandler and John Grinder for a more thorough explanation if the subject interests you.
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Friday, June 02, 2006
First Job Interview of 2004
It’s quiet a long time, I haven't written any thing about me.
Today I like to share my first interview experience and how it is done in Karachi, Pakistan.
Not remember the date or the month, but I can tell it was in between July and September. I was free after my Intermediate papers and the admission was in January 2005 for bachelors. I applied for first time for a job as a Computer Operator as a part time job. I found the advertisement in the Newspaper and applied for it by sending my CV through email which was asked for. After applying, I resume what I was doing.
Then after two or three days, I got call from there. I don't know the firm at all, because very few mentioned there company's or firm's name. I don't clearly remember when he had called me there for interview but I think it was the next day. At that time too, I was into Computer Graphics and was using 2D software Adobe Photoshop (which I still using) for making creative graphics for my personal interests.
So, I grab my friend and walk for interview. I just knew what software would be required for a job, which was Microsoft Office (includes MS Word, MS PowerPoint, MS Excel, MS Access, etc.), but I don't know which one of these they were using. They have given me time and I reached at that. However, there were at least two candidates before me. I had waited for about half an hour, during which they gave me the form in which I have to fill the personal details and expected salary. I even knew the firm's name after I received the form, where at the top of the form was the heading of their firm. It was the women law firm association.
Then after waiting, I got my number and I was interviewed by a woman which was gone fine, afterwards a man take my test, he would be near 30. Communication between us was going fine. Test was okay, I have to use Excel and Word. I have worked in both of these problems according to my requirements. In work he was checking typing speed, which was slow because of the old keyboard available there. I have an average speed. Okay, after test, some questions, then, said we will call you. I knew I can't get this job because I am not fit in these types of jobs. And then, I got no response from them.
However, in the same year, they called again, but they wanted me to come right away, same day. After first interview, I had made my mind to work only as a Graphic Designer. I use Microsoft Office very rarely. I have not sent my CV again nor I contacted them, but they have the record of me. Okay, I visited them again, immediately after the call, alone this time. I was thinking what they want now. He has said nothing on the phone, just said to visit them for interview.
I reached there and same process, but not form filling this time, because it was filled in my first visit. Some more questions. Finally I had met the lawyer. It was the month of December; I have made my mind to do the job only if it is part time. I don't want to make my studies suffer. When I was interviewed by the old female lawyer, its came to my attention that they want full time now and salary was very low. I explain about why I can't do full time and I am into Graphics. I finished talking to them by declaring that I can't work like that and I went back home.
There were two interviews at the same place, one was part time and other was full time. In 2004, only these two interviews have been taken place.
There are many things left to be share, which will be soon be revealed to you.
Thank you for your time.
Have a nice day!
Sunday, May 07, 2006
The Reason (Hoobastank)
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
Thats why i need you to hear
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You [x4]
I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you
Thursday, April 20, 2006
The Power Of Your Words
You are where you are in your life right now because of the power of words.
Stop for a moment and take stock of where you are in your life's journey right now. Picture where you are on the staircase of your own life's destiny. Imagine for a minute, your goals and your dreams, of where your heart tells you where you can go in your life. You sense that you possess the ability, skills and potential to achieve the heights of your own level of success. You believe you can attain that level.
As you allow yourself to experience the sense of 'being there', take a look at where you are on that staircase of your own life today. If there were two-hundred stairs on the staircase, what stair would you be on right now?
As you allow yourself to take inventory and determine how far you've come in your journey and how far you have yet to go, notice how you feel. How do you feel about where you've been? What happened on those lower steps as you glance back at them? Which of those steps were the most difficult to step to? Notice the deep emotions that are attached to some of those steps. Review the events that occurred that enabled you to be where you are right now.
As you contemplate each of those lower steps, let them lead you up to where you stand right now. How hard is the step that you are taking right now in your life? Are you striving to take several different steps right now in your life? What are they? How do you feel about the steps that you are taking? What about the ones just ahead?
Now, look up into the distance. See yourself at the top! I see you there making those last couple of steps, just three more, now two more, now one more riser and you reach your destiny! See yourself jumping up and down. Hear yourself screaming, 'I MADE IT! I DID IT!' How does that feel?
I'm glad that you took the time today and gave yourself the gift of going on this brief, 'your life's journey', with me today. Why did we take this journey? I wanted you to see, hear and feel the power of the words that I have used in order to evoke the imaginations and the emotions that you and I had the privelege of experiencing while on that staircase. WORDS HAVE POWER!
Words have power to create your life. In fact, your life has been created by words. The great writer and 'life motivator', James Allen reminded the world of the ancient truth that 'as you think, so you become'. Your internal dialogue creates emotions. Emotions create actions. Actions determine results. Where does it all begin? It all begins with words.
Consider for a moment, the existence and presence of your subconscious mind. No one has ever seen their subconscious mind, yet there is little doubt that it exists. Let me prove that to you. You likely weren't thinking about your subconscious mind until I mentioned above. If you were already thinking about it, then I can assure you that you weren't thinking about the first toy you ever received. My words prompted you to recall a memory. That memory wasn't present in your conscious mind until I mentioned it. Where was it stored? In your subconscious mind.
You make decisions from data gathered in your subconscious mind. You retrieve experiences, visual scenes, voices, values which you've adopted, knowledge that you've gathered and judgments that you've made in the past, and you bring them into your consciousness in order to make a decision. Oftentimes, these decisions seem to come straight out from the subconcious into our words or actions. We refer to this as 'action or speaking without thinking'. I bet you have done just like me and stuck your foot in your mouth several times in your life.
Words and phrases, which you have heard, which we have repeated over and over and over again in my minds, create formations just as the earth creates rock formations. Ideas, values, concepts, possibilities, impossibilities, abilities and the like, are all stored in your subconscious mind with 'words'.
I heard an author say once, 'if you don't run your own mind, someone else will'. How can you run your own mind? By choosing what goes into it. As cliche as it may sound, you get out of your mind what you put into it. You can choose what you put into your consciousness and what gets stored in your subconsious mind. I have found that it takes a disciplined program of learning and of selective affirmations to replace old, non-productive patterns of thinking and develop new patterns and formations of thinking.
Someone asked me recently if I really believed that making affirmations of positive, powerful words and phrases, will actually change the course, destiny and experience of your life. Will they change the amount of your income? Will they alter the quality of your relationships and your health? I decided to shock them with, 'No, I know longer believe in the power of positive, powerful affirmations to create dynamic life change'. I don't 'believe' it any more. I now 'know' the power that daily, targeted affirmations have to change your life the very moment that begin using them.
It isn't theory any more. It is proven and established scientific fact that as you choose right words that you allow to go into your mind, that they produce guaranteed patterns of success thinking, action and results. Change your life by changing the words that you think and speak.
Personal success coach, published author, international professional speaker, internet entrepreneur
Tuesday, April 18, 2006
Got the Sheet
On 17th April 2006, got the marks sheet from the college.
Following are the marks I got in the sheet.
Compulsory Subjects
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Islamiat 60 - 30
Pakistan Studies 40 - 26
English 100 - 50
Optional Subjects
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Introduction to Business 100 - 65
Accounting 100 - 76
Statistics & Business Mathematics 100 - 81
Economics Analysis 100 - 64
Banking and Finance 100 - 64
Grand Total : 700 / 456
Percentage : 65.14 %
Division : 1st
Monday, April 10, 2006
Achieve Your Dreams with Intention
Life is filled with reflections that often seem to be coincidental. Acts of faith and love are returned many times to people who first shared these acts with others. They did so expecting nothing in return. Yet there will always be reflections of thought and action.
Eric Hoffer wrote, "It is not so much the example of others we imitate as the reflection of ourselves in their eyes and the echo of ourselves in their words."
Like a healthy tree that bears fruit year after year, one's outer life will always mirror his or her inner being. One's self-talk and attitude always echo back from his or her outer world.
There is a familiar saying, "You'll get from a thing exactly what you put into it." Actually, you will get back multiples of what you give. No matter what you want to achieve, one of the most powerful forces with which to begin your dream is intention. Intention drives thought and action!
Intention is more than a wish, whim, or "I'll try it and see" attitude. Intention is powered by God-given faith and courage to make a plan, act on that plan, and see it through to the best of one's ability.
When we move forward with the intention to achieve, the echoes we get back will be strong and clear. They will bring the events and circumstances that move us closer toward our dreams.
Ideas can appear that seem to miraculously provide ways around the most perplexing situations. These ideas are just the beginning of the reflections inspired by faith and intention.
What would you most like to see reflected back into your life?
Hold your vision clearly and firmly in mind without wavering. Give generously to help others solve problems. Your intention and inspired reflections will help you to achieve the most cherished dreams of your heart!
© Copyright by Steve Brunkhorst. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts to help you achieve your top potential. Get the next issue by visiting http://www.AchieveEzine.com
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Friday, April 07, 2006
Still Waiting (Curse KESC)
On 5th April, they shut down the power for more than 2 1/2 hours, one was at 14:00 to 15:00 and second time 21:00 to 22:40. And today in morning near 5am also.
How can the country survive and develop, if there is not a proper electricity service.
Sunday, April 02, 2006
Robbery at Midnight
At late night before going for sleep around 2am or 2:30am on April 01, 2006. While I was standing in the gallery and looking down. I notice that all the lights down in our building were closed. Which makes me and my brother suspicious. However we gone for sleep.
In the morning when I woke up, I heard the news.
Between 4:30am to 5:30am, the robbery have been done. Three flats were broken and robbery was done in one.
All three household go to Jamat Khana (worship place) in the morning.
One on first, another on second floor and one was at the fifth floor. Before broking in, they close other flats gates from outside which were close to those flats.
They entered two without taking any thing, it was really odd or there were man in the house thats way.
The one which was broken and robbery was done, was because both the adults were gone and they (robbers) entered, spray the kids and easily empted the flat.
Where was the gate keeper? Why was the lights closed.
The gate keeper is the one who know all the information and he can't be involved in it alone.
As I came to my conclusion, the previous gate keeper, as his chances are too much, as he have created too much problem before and also he was a thief too. Involvment of current gate keeper, which is obvious, and the involvment of the any of the person of the same building. It was the big plan. People are now afraid too much.
Is it karma?
Wednesday, March 29, 2006
Result, Progress and Projects
The work on Animation Reel is going fine and it would be completed within two days. The work have been left is making sound and music level and the ending credits. After that, the project of updating my site would be started with new layout.
Saturday, March 25, 2006
Where am I?
Its been a long time I haven't posted in the blog.
I was recently busy in my work make animation and making models, so I get a good protfolio and the desired job.
Now a days, I have started working on the animation reel.
More to come,
Take care.
Wednesday, January 18, 2006
Why Questions Are The Answer!
by: Garry Zancanaro
Asking questions is one of the most basic ways that we all learn and grow. The questions we ask other people, and even more importantly, the questions we ask ourselves, can have a dramatic impact on our self improvement, success and happiness.
There are times when we find ourselves with problems, in difficult situations, or even in a position where we feel completely overwhelmed. It can be very easy to say 'what have I done to deserve this?' or 'why does this always happen to me?'
However, these questions are destructive and only serve to prepare us for future disappointments. In fact, they can actually guarantee it! The questions we ask ourselves reflect our state of mind, reinforce our beliefs and have a huge impact on our results.
We all need to make a concerted effort to ask ourselves empowering questions that encourage and promote positive thoughts, rather than destructive questions that reinforce negative thought patterns and behaviour.
We all experience events that seem just too much for us to deal with, but in almost any situation, no matter how bad it may seem, there is usually something positive that can be found. Actively looking for positives and asking the right questions can make all the difference.
Actually asking the question 'what can I learn from this?' is a great starting point, even if you only learn what not to do in the future. But you can go much further. It has often been said that when one door closes another opens; and that in every setback lies opportunity. Things usually happen for a reason. When something happens that may seem like the worst possible outcome, very often it turns out to be just the opposite.
Many people have achieved their greatest successes as a direct result of events that seemed like disasters at the time. Don't just stare at the closed door - why not try asking yourself what opportunities are now available, or what doors have just opened for you? Try approaching the situation from a completely different angle and actively look for viewpoints you hadn't considered. You may be amazed what you come up with. At the very least, it will improve your state of mind, start you thinking more positively and creatively, and may just change you life.
"A major stimulant to creative thinking is focused questions. There is something about a well-worded question that often penetrates to the heart of the matter and triggers new ideas and insights." - Brian Tracy
About The Author
Garry Zancanaro is the founder of http://www.SelfImprovementDirectory.com/ a website dedicated to all aspects of Personal Development, and to helping people live more successful and fulfilling lives. Visit to claim a FREE copy of Napoleon Hill's classic 'Think and Grow Rich'.
Saturday, December 31, 2005
I'm Back
I would like to tell you that I am free from my exams and I am starting to write again revealing my life, and something new to learn.
Take care.
Sunday, November 27, 2005
The Power of Positive Thinking
Key Point
You are what you think. You feel what you want.
Why Think Positively?
All of our feelings, beliefs and knowledge are based on our internal thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. We are in control, whether we know it or not.
| Aim high and do your best |
We can be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive.
The biggest difference between people is their attitudes. For some, learning is enjoyable and exciting. For others, learning is a drudgery. For many, learning is just okay, something required on the road to a job.
"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
- Abraham Lincoln
Our present attitudes are habits, built from the feedback of parents, friends, society and self, that form our self-image and our world-image.
These attitudes are maintained by the inner conversations we constantly have with ourselves, both consciously and subconsciously.
The first step in changing our attitudes is to change our inner conversations.
What Should We Be Saying?
One approach is called the three C's: Commitment, Control and Challenge.
Commitment
Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself and others. Dream of success. Be enthusiastic.
Control
Keep your mind focused on important things. Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize to practice your actions. Develop a strategy for dealing with problems. Learn to relax. Enjoy successes. Be honest with yourself.
Challenge
Be courageous. Change and improve each day. Do your best and don't look back. See learning and change as opportunities. Try new things. Consider several options. Meet new people. Ask lots of questions. Keep track of your mental and physical health. Be optimistic.
Studies show that people with these characteristics are winners in good times and survivors in hard times.
Research shows that,
"... people who begin consciously to modify their inner conversations and assumptions report an almost immediate improvement in their performance. Their energy increases and things seem to go better ..."
Commitment, control and challenge help build self-esteem and promote positive thinking. Here are some other suggestions.
7 Suggestions for Building Positive Attitudes
- In every class, look for positive people to associate with.
- In every lecture, look for one more interesting idea.
- In every chapter, find one more concept important to you.
- With every friend, explain a new idea you've just learned.
- With every teacher, ask a question.
- With yourself, keep a list of your goals, positive thoughts and actions.
- Remember, you are what you think, you feel what you want.
Copyright 1991 Donald Martin, How to be a Successful Student
Busy with Studies
Thursday, November 17, 2005
Health Problem
I was in bed feeling sick. Near to the exams, it has been one week I am suffering from the viral and malarial infection.
I have been 90% recovered, and hope to be back to my routine.
Take care.
Tuesday, November 08, 2005
Mails that are Forwarded
I like to share things. I never try or like to take the advantage alone. I like to spread the word, so every one can take the advantage.
If someone don't like the forwards, they are welcomed to tell me that he/she don't like the forwarded mails.
If anyone of you want interesting forwards (not everyday, depends when I get the good stuff), they can mail me any time.
Those who would like to be my friends only, can also contact me.
Don't Follow the Follower
95 percent of people never succeed because they're following the wrong group
Processionary caterpillars travel in long, undulating lines, one creature behind the other. Jean Hanri Fabre, the French entomologist, once lead a group of these caterpillars onto the rim of a large flowerpot so that the leader of the procession found himself nose to tail with the last caterpillar in the procession, forming a circle without end or beginning.
Through sheer force of habit and, of course, instinct, the ring of caterpillars circled the flowerpot for seven days and seven nights, until they died from exhaustion and starvation. An ample supply of food was close at hand and plainly visible, but it was outside the range of the circle, so the caterpillars continued along the beaten path.
People often behave in a similar way. Habit patterns and ways of thinking become deeply established, and it seems easier and more comforting to follow them than to cope with change, even when that change may represent freedom, achievement, and success.
If someone shouts, "Fire!" it is automatic to blindly follow the crowd, and many thousands have needlessly died because of it. How many stop to ask themselves: Is this really the best way out of here?
So many people "miss the boat" because it's easier and more comforting to follow to follow without questioning the qualifications of the people just ahead than to do some independent thinking and checking.
A hard thing for most people to fully understand is that people in such numbers can be so wrong, like the caterpillars going around and around the edge of the flowerpot, with life and food just a short distance away. If most people are living that way, it must be right, they think. But a little checking will reveal that throughout all recorded history the majority of mankind has an unbroken record of being wrong about most things, especially important things. For a time we thought the earth was flat and later we thought the sun, stars, and planets traveled around the Earth. Both ideas are now considered ridiculous, but at the time they were believed and defended by the vast majority of followers. In the hindsight of history we must have looked like those caterpillars blindly following the follower out of habit rather than stepping out of line to look for the truth.
© 2004 Nightingale-Conant Corporation